When we got married there was a lot to get taken care of. I wish I would have know that the damn RSVP cards were going to be such a problem.

Why is it that people feel like RSVPing for a wedding is such trouble?! I mean, when you get invited to a frormal celebration like a wedding it can't be that hard to grasp that there might be a reason why.

I am not the only one, other people have noticed that people fail to send the RSVP back to the hosts.

A friend of mine was in the same boat , getting married, stressed, and she did what I didn't. She got clever. This was the first I've heard of this site. She used RSVP services, it cost her $100 but they gave her the service for a year, and they will do the dirty work of calling people for rsvps, if the rsvp'd too many people, etc.

This was a godsend for her since a couple of people actually RSVPd with kids and the invitations clearly stated that children were not allowed at the wedding. Well, in other words. They actually called all of the people on the list that seemed like they were problomatic and they got them straightened out. It was nice. I was wishing I had had the service when we went through the hassle.

What we did was make a website on squarespace and used their form builder for RSVPs to get emailed to us. We also password protected the RSVP page and included the password in the invites, which was a little much for our guests. I guess we should get points for trying.

It was not very successful, unfortunately. We had to call over half of our guests to get their RSVPs.

Initially, we weren't going to do an RSVP card at all, but we decided to do a plated dinner with several meat options, so we will have to include an RSVP. The idea for the website was mine since I wanted to save on postage costs, we didn't want to pre-stamp the return envelopes and thus the option of RSVP-ing online.

It was so much stress. And it wasn't perfect.

The reason I came to the idea because another friend set up a wordpress website for their RSVP. They used a RSVP function through there, and it worked very well. I think that the only one that they did not receive was from their grandmother, so they only had to reach out to them with a phone call. She loved the online RSVP - they saved some paper and some postage, and a lot of people were able to leave them sweet messages on their website.

So I was all like, sign me up.

Live and learn.


If you're expecting, don't look at must-have baby lists. What you must have is a carseat, safe sleeping arrangement, and the other nessecities that babies require.

Everything else, decide as you go along if you really need it. We purchased almost all our kids' clothing secondhand or received things as hand-me-downs, then donated or trashed or handed down everything as soon as they grew out of it.

Invest in experiences, not toys, as much as possible.

A zoo membership or a toddler music class or a day at the science museum.

Even though we've done this, the toys accumulate. Put them on rotation. One third "favorite" toys that are always out, one third rotating toys on the shelves, one third rotating toys in boxes in the garage. Avoid a toy bin, keep toys on display so they always have a place and can be found to play with, but also so you have a sense of what's ready to get rid of.

For gifting holidays, the Rule of Four. Something you want, something you need, something to wear, something to read. Keep toys simple, open ended stuff like blocks, Lego, art supplies.


You might try a Crystal-like deodorant Crystal. There are other brands.

This works great for me and it lasts... FOREVER (almost).

I'm on my 2nd one because I dropped the first one I bought and it cracked. Now I'm particularly careful and it's been 4 months and I can't hardly tell if it's even been used. It should last for years.

My husband thought this was a scam. He laughed at me when I bought one.

He switched pretty soon after, no artificial perfume pong, no cloud of dust to inhale, no reapplying every day, just when I wash. I am on my 2nd one now and it has been 4 years. These are so cheap it is insane.